June 22, 2025

Honoring someone who is loved!

How to Write and Deliver a Eulogy

Writing and delivering a eulogy can feel overwhelming. How do you sum up a person’s life in just a few minutes? And if you're not used to public speaking, the idea of standing in front of others can add to the pressure. But remember: this moment is about honoring someone’s life — not delivering a perfect speech.



Here are some tips to help you prepare:

1. Take Time to Prepare

A eulogy is not something to do off the cuff. Even experienced speakers do better with preparation and structure.

2. Introduce Yourself

Begin by briefly stating who you are and your relationship to the person who has passed. If you are speaking on behalf of the family, thank the attendees for being there.

3. Outline Their Life

Start with basic details: where and when they were born, names of family members, significant life events, education, career, and major milestones.

4. Capture Their Essence

Think about what made them unique. Use simple words like “kind,” “loyal,” “funny,” or “hardworking.” These qualities resonate and help paint a clear picture.

5. Talk to Others

Interview friends and family. Ask open-ended questions like:

  • How did you know them?
  • What stands out when you think of them?
  • Do you have a favorite memory or story?
  • What should not be left out?

If possible, record these conversations. They’ll help you craft a meaningful tribute.

6. Include a Story

Personal stories bring a eulogy to life. Choose one that illustrates their character. Humor is welcome — if it feels natural.

7. Offer a Thoughtful Farewell

Conclude with a goodbye. If you're unsure how, use a favorite quote, poem, scripture, or song lyric — especially one the deceased loved.

8. Practice

Read your eulogy out loud. Make edits for clarity and length (aim for 3–8 minutes). If others are speaking, coordinate to avoid repeating stories.

9. Deliver with Care

Speak slowly and clearly. It’s normal to feel emotional — pause, breathe, and continue when ready. Practicing in advance will help you feel more confident.

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